“Can we please destroy the culture of cis hetero marriages where the guy acts like he’s getting dragged into it?”

I’m a cis husband in a hetero marriage and I approve this message:benjiscloset: can we please destroy the culture of cis hetero marriages where the guy acts like he’s getting dragged into it? it’s misogynistic as fuck, it’s rude and disrespectful to everyone involved, and it’s a huge middle finger to everyone else who would …

We glory in fictional men whose moral compromises make them complex and interesting characters, blurring the line between “hero” and “anti-hero” into morally bankrupt irrelevance. We get the vapors over dark, brooding, gritty men. But when confronted with real, flesh-and-blood women who have had to make hard choices and whose moral scorecard includes more than …

Must Reads After Isla Vista

This little compilation of links to Monday morning must reads after the terrible Isla Vista shooting Saturday goes out to all my readers, but especially to my fellow cismen. Laurie Penny in New Statesman makes a lot of great points in an essay titled “Let’s call the Isla Vista killings what they were: misogynist extremism.” Here’s an …

I think the average guy thinks they’re pro-woman, just because they think they’re a nice guy and someone has told them that they’re awesome. But the truth is far from it. Unless you are actively, consciously working against the gravitational pull of the culture, you will predictably, thematically, create these sort of fucked-up representations. Junot …