I’m a cis husband in a hetero marriage and I approve this message:benjiscloset: can we please destroy the culture of cis hetero marriages where the guy acts like he’s getting dragged into it? it’s misogynistic as fuck, it’s rude and disrespectful to everyone involved, and it’s a huge middle finger to everyone else who would …
Tag Archives: Men
chard-femme: cindymayweather: “A feminist critic is really important for men, I’ve been saying this for years. Men really need to be engaged in a feminist politic or they’re going to be just as oppressed by patriarchy and these ideas of what it means to be a man and masculinity that keeps them in whatever closet …
We glory in fictional men whose moral compromises make them complex and interesting characters, blurring the line between “hero” and “anti-hero” into morally bankrupt irrelevance. We get the vapors over dark, brooding, gritty men. But when confronted with real, flesh-and-blood women who have had to make hard choices and whose moral scorecard includes more than …
Why is it not helpful to say “not all men are like that”? For lots of reasons. For one, women know this. They already know not every man is a rapist, or a murderer, or violent. They don’t need you to tell them. Second, it’s defensive. When people are defensive, they aren’t listening to the …
Must Reads After Isla Vista
This little compilation of links to Monday morning must reads after the terrible Isla Vista shooting Saturday goes out to all my readers, but especially to my fellow cismen. Laurie Penny in New Statesman makes a lot of great points in an essay titled “Let’s call the Isla Vista killings what they were: misogynist extremism.” Here’s an …
But Marietta never could stand men laughing. There were always places she hated to go past, let alone into, and that was the reason. Men laughing. […] A bunch of men standing out on the street, outside a hotel, seemed to Marietta like a clot of poison. You tried not to hear what they were …
I think we still live in a culture that assumes that men are single by choice and women are single because no one wants them. Sara Eckel, This is Why You’re Still Single (It’s Not Why You Think) […]
I think the average guy thinks they’re pro-woman, just because they think they’re a nice guy and someone has told them that they’re awesome. But the truth is far from it. Unless you are actively, consciously working against the gravitational pull of the culture, you will predictably, thematically, create these sort of fucked-up representations. Junot …
femfreq: Contrary to popular belief, feminists have always had a sharp sense of humor. I think Phyllis Schlafly continuously makes argument no. 3 (and isn’t even kidding.)
When Jimmy Page was rocking, I didn’t think he was rocking for guys. But there were definitely some bands I felt that way about, where I wasn’t invited to rock along with them. Like the white T-shirt, hardcore punk white guys. They were way meaner than the heavy metal bands and way meaner than some …
