everythingbutharleyquinn:

desliz:

friendlyangryfeminist:

things I’ve been thinking about

• at what point does an ally’s anger stop being supportive and start being appropriative? 

Many other people have already pointed out that when it becomes a way for the ally to draw attention to themselves, it’s an issue, but I think the most dangerous part, and the part I always have to force myself to keep in mind, is when allies anger bigots to the point that they actually increase the likelihood that the marginalized person will suffer negative effects. The ally is protected by their privilege, and therefore cannot properly gauge how their arguing and shitstirring may impact the people they believe they’re helping.

reblogging this as a note to self on those issues on which I attempt to be ally to

…and to point out that, though abolitionists would never dub themselves ‘allies’ to sex workers in the sense meant here, this is exactly the shit they pull when they don’t listen to us and try to ‘rescue’ us or reason away/talk over our voices with their own anger and projections.  

I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be an ally/how to be a good-as-possible ally in the last couple of weeks (since I came back from Berlin.) I’ll keep this in mind.